It goes without saying that the groom will pick his own groomsmen without needing much direction, but it is important that he sees them as primarily his responsibility. With that in mind, he needs to make sure to invite them to suit fittings, rehearsal dinners, and any other relevant wedding activities. As a Wedding Planner, it is my job to make sure the suit fittings are booked in advance, and to coordinate the rehearsal dinner, but it’s definitely on the groom to make sure things are checked off when it comes to his half of the bridal party!
As well as providing a list of the loved ones he wants at the wedding ceremony and reception, it is critical but not always said that the groom is responsible for tracking down the addresses, and noting the correct salutations of his potential guests.
Chasing RSVPs is one of the most stressful elements of planning a wedding as people sometimes underestimate the urgency required. Two heads are better than one, and it makes sense for the bride and groom to do follow-ups for their own half of the list to confirm dinner orders and numbers, which is delegated to the hired Wedding Planner who will correspond with your caterer.
Guys…we don’t like drama but wedding planning can sometimes cause tensions within families. If for example: his sister is causing issues regarding bridesmaids’ dresses, or his mother is interfering too much, this should be dealt with by the groom before the stress begins to cause turbulence between both sides of the family.
It is so nerve-racking to speak in front of a crowd, but the only way to deliver a warm, and heartfelt speech through the anxiety is to practice. This is not a last-minute kind of task, it is important to feel comfortable with your words as well as sure that these words are appropriate for all audiences. Your Wedding Planner should, and will help you write your speech, or listen and give you constructive feedback ahead of the big day.
This is one of my favourite groom’s responsibilities to oversee. I plan and am present at the rehearsal dinner in order to make sure the officiants, both sets of parents, and all wedding party members know when and where to show up as well as to finalise last minute details like table plans and arrival times of vendors. However, I do expect my grooms to take the lead in order to take the pressure off the bride, as they always appreciate the huge gesture and feel happier and relaxed (even if its just for the duration of the dinner).
Sir, you need to pick your suit. Brides, he needs to pick his suit so please let him. He needs to make sure he’s comfortable in it, but also that it fits the overall style of the wedding. Christina Steinbrenner, director of tuxedo marketing at Jos. A. Bank Clothiers gives grooms a little tip: “For a traditional, more formal event, a classic tuxedo with a notch, shawl, or peak lapel is ideal. Slim-fit silhouettes have been most popular lately. For a less traditional option, shades of gray are hugely popular. Destination or beach weddings call for a lighter gray, tan, or even a jacket-less tuxedo.”
Traditionally, the bride and groom exchange wedding gifts with a heartfelt note either the night before the big day, or delivered while you’re getting ready on the actual day. It doesn’t have to be anything lavish or extravagant, just special.
Sometimes I like grooms more than brides. Men have an ability to think on a macro scale (big picture stuff like “I just want everyone to get drunk and have a great time”) that allows for a maintained focus when we are planning your wedding. While us ladies tend to fuss over details, I always encourage my grooms to continue to think about how they want the wedding to feel, how they want the guests to feel, and the overall atmosphere.
This isn’t just the groom’s responsibility but it doesn’t help to slip a reminder at the end. This is the ultimate time to be romantic and cheesy as stress skills sex and passion. You need to be constantly aware of why you’re doing this; because you love each other and you want to celebrate commiting yourselves to each other with your loved ones. Not for the favours, not for the canapes, not for the perfect pinterest board brought to life- because you love each other. So don’t forget to say “I love you”